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Win my love: The cheat sheet

June 18, 2013

I know that you are supposed to like or love people based on their character or their soul, but that shit takes a lot of time to figure out. It’s much more efficient to quickly categorize people as loveable, likeable or deeply suspicious based on their surface traits. Like many people, I have a few [...]

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Love in flames: finding the joy in hostile comments

January 18, 2013

“I don’t know why you care about the shit that a bunch of total strangers say about you on the Internet.” This was my mom’s delightfully candid and potentially comforting response to this week’s comment eruption on my Harvard Business Review post. My mom is quite an extraordinary person, but her most extraordinary trait may [...]

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3 practices that restore the meaning of friendship on Facebook

November 18, 2011

Do you insert audible air quotes when you talk about your Facebook “friends”? If so, it’s time to strip away those air quotes and get serious about your online friends, on Facebook and beyond. That’s part of the commitment to embracing your real online life that I’ll be talking about tomorrow at TEDxVictoria. My TEDx [...]

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Online relationship advice from Oprah.com

How Social Media Can Sustain Your Friendships (from Oprah.com)

November 26, 2010

This blog post originally appeared on Oprah.com. “I’m writing because I’m an old friend of Angel J.,” the e-mail said. “I see from your site that you know her; can you put us in touch?” It wasn’t the first time we’d served as a point of reintroduction. Our wedding photos, posted in 2000, constituted the [...]

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4 ways online communication can build relationships

June 22, 2010

Dear Alex: The Internet can be good for relationships. No, it’s not an affirmation. It’s the argument I’d like to make to Alex Lickerman, who recently wrote a post about the Effect of Technology on Relationships for his blog on Psychology Today. While I applaud his concern for the Internet’s impact on human connection, I’m [...]

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A practice to make your online friendships more meaningful

June 18, 2010

I wonder if technology and social media has compressed our relationships into a process that we can barely recognize? That question is at the heart of Rhett Smith’s thoughtful blog post, Technology: Connected, Yet Lonelier Than Ever. He argues that by making it so easy to create nominal connections, technology can actually make it harder [...]

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Can a mobile phone make you sane instead of crazy?

June 3, 2010

Aaron Bellve of Spit, Bristle and Fury (killer blog title, BTW!) has a thoughtful post about an NPR story on the dawn of therapy by mobile phone. Cell phones, rather than augmenting our human encounters, are replacing them and in something as complex, sensitive and human based as the care of our mental health, I [...]

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Online relationship advice from Oprah.com

6 ways to prioritize your friends online (for Oprah.com)

April 23, 2010

This post for Oprah.com shows how to support your friendships by making and keeping real friends online.

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The meaning of friendship, on- and offline

January 19, 2010

This weekend was the first time I found myself on the receiving end of Facebook’s new and  more nuanced privacy settings. An old friend popped up in the Facebook sidebar, which rotates an assortment of different people in your friend list. On a whim, I clicked her picture, so I could catch up on her latest news. Instead [...]

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