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There’s a reason they call it social media: it is supposed to support our social lives and bring us closer together. So why do social networks leave so many of us feeling overwhelmed and disconnected?

This page is full of ideas and resources to put the social back in social media. It includes blog posts about tools and strategies for connecting with your sweetheart or friends (kids, parents and other family members get their own family page).

Your time online should increase the amount of love in your life. I hope these strategies and ideas can help.

Win my love: The cheat sheet

June 18, 2013

I know that you are supposed to like or love people based on their character or their soul, but that shit takes a lot of time to figure out. It’s much more efficient to quickly categorize people as loveable, likeable or deeply suspicious based on their surface traits. Like many people, I have a few [...]

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Love in flames: finding the joy in hostile comments

January 18, 2013

“I don’t know why you care about the shit that a bunch of total strangers say about you on the Internet.” This was my mom’s delightfully candid and potentially comforting response to this week’s comment eruption on my Harvard Business Review post. My mom is quite an extraordinary person, but her most extraordinary trait may [...]

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Using the Internet to find empathy in solitude

December 12, 2012

Twitter is outsourced schizophrenia. I have a couple hundred voices I have consensually  agreed to allow residence inside my brain. So writes Adam Brault in a very thoughtful blog post, I quit Twitter for a month and it completely changed my thinking about mostly everything. Just when I think that I have read as many blog posts [...]

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2×2: Filtering your Facebook friends

November 26, 2012

How do you decide to view or relate to different friends on Facebook? As with all things in life, this can be described by a 2×2 matrix: Love this person Not so much Entertaining Facebooker Add to my “A1 pals” list, which is the news feed I look at most of the time Leave on [...]

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What to tell your kids about dating before the Internet

November 20, 2012

Hey, old people!  By which I mean: hey, people my age! If you’ve been wondering what dating wisdom you can usefully impart to your teenage or soon-to-be teenage kids, you should read Stephanie Martin’s thoughtful post on Dating in the Social Media Age. Stephanie writes: Before, during, and even after dating someone we will all nonchalantly [...]

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Don’t blame the Internet for infidelity

November 19, 2012

The Petraeus drama reflects the enticements and betrayals of our new, disembodied modes of discourse. The come-ons, the flirtations, the stalking, the alleged harassment: all were abetted by the deceptive cloak of cyberspace, and all were immortalized there. It’s a story of people not just behaving badly but e-mailing badly as well…. Back in the [...]

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8 hot ways Evernote can spice up your sex life

July 18, 2012
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“For doing your taxes”. “For shopping and to-do lists”. “For home improvement projects”. These are three of the very practical suggestions the Evernote blog has to offer as part of their 8 great ways couples can use Evernote shared notebooks blog post, which I just stumbled across today. But I worry that their list may perpetuate [...]

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Hanger card: How to have sex in the shower

June 7, 2012

Healthcare organizations distribute shower hanger cards that prompt women to do breast self-exams. The same approach could provide handy tips on how to have sex in the shower.

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NameRater: A search tool for evaluating a possible name change

June 2, 2012

Wanted: a search tool that evaluates the search engine visibility of your prospective married name, or the name you are considering for your baby.

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SinglesMob: An app for turning parties into mixers

June 1, 2012

Envisioning an app that lets you blast your single friends with the news that you are at a party with a lot of single guys (and not enough women) or vice versa.

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4 last-minute social media valentines

February 14, 2012
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Congratulations to all those who woke up this morning with their Valentine’s cookies baked, their kids’ class valentine cards addressed and boxed, and a dinner reservation in place at the romantic restaurant of your choice. You have got your Valentine act together, and I hope you are rewarded by a partner who produces a Tiffany [...]

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